yeah, abstinence-only/focused education is about religion/morals, etc. It's not about being happy, so kids who are ready (mature, in very serious, monogamous relationships for a long period of time) are still discouraged from having sex, whereas if I were to meet a responsible young couple of high school seniors or whatever in that situation, I'd say go for it (with protection of course!) Most or many of the people who have sex for the first time when they are 14-17 are not in the right relationships. Some of them know they aren't in love but don't think that it's important for having sex, but then after the fact wish they had been in love. Some of them think they are in love but later change their minds about it and wish they hadn't had sex. This is still of course true of older virgins, but more often these older individuals have a more mature outlook on their selves and their relationships. For the record, I also think that emotional maturity for sex almost always comes after physical maturity.
As for me, yeah, I'm well known in the psychology world now for my over-applying to schools. We are now VERY happy that we applied to so many places. We haven't heard from almost all of the law schools, but we do have one match that is actually my top choice, but it's not near his top choice. So, we're waiting on hearing from the rest of the law schools to see what other matches we get and whether they are better than the one we have already. Luckily I've been aggressive about making decisions and eliminating schools as we get news, because I don't want to be an asshole by applying to so many places (and therefore hanging on to many admissions slots).
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Date: 2005-03-14 04:35 pm (UTC)For the record, I also think that emotional maturity for sex almost always comes after physical maturity.
As for me, yeah, I'm well known in the psychology world now for my over-applying to schools. We are now VERY happy that we applied to so many places. We haven't heard from almost all of the law schools, but we do have one match that is actually my top choice, but it's not near his top choice. So, we're waiting on hearing from the rest of the law schools to see what other matches we get and whether they are better than the one we have already. Luckily I've been aggressive about making decisions and eliminating schools as we get news, because I don't want to be an asshole by applying to so many places (and therefore hanging on to many admissions slots).