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[eirias]

To follow up on the topic of conversations I've been involved with recently in multiple places, and in celebration of my recent renewal of my paid account, the nifty features of which I basically never use, here is a

[Poll #946037]

As always, feel free to elaborate in comments.

Comments

[eirias.livejournal.com]

I realized belatedly that my poll omitted a crucial pair of questions: How much do your spatially-close and emotionally-close friendships overlap, and how much would you like them to?

Consider it added and answer it here if you want to. For me the answer is: Enough to be tolerable, but not enough to be perfectly satisfactory. I think I would like maybe a 50% overlap (critical mass, but still excuses to travel). This is basically impossible, though ;).

[ksledgemoore.livejournal.com]

They overlap by one (my husband) and of course I would like them to overlap by more. You might be able to say they overlap by 1-2 more people, but it's a stretch. I'm sad that all of my closest people live far away! This is why I put "meh"...that and my husband and I are so busy we don't do enough social stuff. We do much more than most married couples, though.

[ukelele.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I'm with you. Unlike eirias I don't generally treat travel excuses as an asset ;). (And if I want to travel, its for characteristics of the *place*, eg all those Roman ruins I've not seen, or the incredible weirdness that is Dubai).

[eirias.livejournal.com]

It's the weird kind of asset that promotes acquisition of debt. :)

[ukelele.livejournal.com]

I might have had a more useful answer to #3, but of course I could not resist that option; hence see #7.

[eirias.livejournal.com]

Indeed, I made that option with you in mind and am charmed to see that you chose it. :)

[ukelele.livejournal.com]

Bwahaha!

[drspiff.livejournal.com]

Hrumph! I'm the oldest person completing your poll? Time to start lying about my age. :)

[eirias.livejournal.com]

So far! You're not the oldest person who has me friended :)

[tiurin.livejournal.com]

As you mentioned, there is the problem of geographic locale of emotionally close friends. That's one of the main reasons for my "meh" answer, as opposed to ducky.

[kirin]

I had trouble with the too many / too few / just right options. For example, on number of local friends, I'm not unhappy with what I've got, but I wouldn't object to more either. I suspect this is true for many people given the large number of "too few" answers there compared to the large number of satisfied answers to #1.

Also, I wish more of my extant friends were (spatially) closer, regardless of other variables, which isn't really reflected in any of the questions; but then, I suspect that's true of nearly everybody as well.

[eirias.livejournal.com]

Also, I wish more of my extant friends were (spatially) closer, regardless of other variables

Yeah, see my first comment above -- I wish I had more overlap in that area, too! I meant to include it, I just forgot (alas for no poll editing...)